Oct 16, 2014, 12:50: Why being “too pretty” or “too handsome” may be a disadvantage
Have you ever come across those beautiful ladies, the kind that draw every gaze and every glance away from the status quo? I believe you have. What about the handsome guys, the kind that rouse sleeping desires amongst the female folk?
There’s usually the mistaken notion that people like this are always wonderful. For instance, some psychologists are of the opinion that people tend to pay more respect to the ‘beautiful ones’ (we’re using ‘beauty’ only in terms of ‘good-looking’ natural endowments of course). In fact, research has shown that many prefer to make friends with good-looking people. Society has placed them on a high pedestal. Their faces are sought by camera flashes, bill boards, newspapers, etc.
But the question is: “Are the beautiful ones really that beautiful?” In my experience, only in rare cases do we find beautiful ones who remain truly beautiful (now we refer to something much more encompassing and holistic). What do you expect? When people treat me nicely, smile at me, expect the best from me, and over look most of my mistakes all because I have a pretty face, I may gradually develop into a cold, calculating, unfeeling narcissist, who thinks everyone else is inferior to me. What more, I may end up with no beauty whatsoever save for what’s obvious in my physical make-up. This happens more among the male folk. Come to think of it, who wants to be in any kind of relationship with just a beautiful face?
Female folk also have their own difficulties. Experience shows that pretty faces are more prone to exploitation by their male counterparts. For instance, while the rapist may not so much concern himself with whether or not his victims have pretty faces, it is often the case that 70% of the girls that get raped are good-looking. What about those who constantly struggle with inordinate advances from men who cannot control their surging libidinous urges? Many pretty girls have had to endure different levels of sexual assault from those who should know better. The effects? Most of these girls end up not able to trust and not able to hold meaningful intimate relationships ever after. The above may likely not be the case amongst those who aren’t that pretty or good looking.
I’m not saying this is always the case. I’m only saying it seems to be happening on a very large scale. Being too pretty may not be so pretty after all. What do you think?